While most Christians agree to seek purity and save sex for marriage, few have been given a blueprint for how that should affect their view of dating and love. In I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris exposes the "Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating" and offers a realistic outline of how to have a biblical vision of marriage. Harris contends that one must begin with a new attitude, viewing love, purity, and singleness from God's perspective rather than thinking that love and romance are to be enjoyed "solely for recreation." In such well-named chapters as "Guarding Your Heart" and "What Matters at Fifty," Harris encourages the reader to look at one's character rather than reveling in infatuation, to regard love as a truly selfless, biblical act rather than a feeling. He refutes the concept that we are victims of "falling in love" (that it is beyond our control), saying that "God wants us to seek guidance from scriptural truth, not feeling. Smart love looks beyond personal desires and the gratification of the moment. It looks at the big picture: serving others and glorifying God." Before you roll your eyes, moaning that this sounds terribly unromantic, know that Harris does a superb job of couching his convictions in the sincere belief that if we are purposeful in our singleness and date with integrity, a fulfilled marriage awaits us--in God's timing. --Jill Heatherly --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Joshua Harris's first book, written when he was only 21, turned the Christian singles scene upside down...and people are still talking. More than 800,000 copies later, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, with its inspiring call to sincere love, real purity, and purposeful singleness, remains the benchmark for books on Christian dating. Now, for the first time since its release, the national #1 bestseller has been expanded with new content and updated for new readers. Honest and practical, it challenges cultural assumptions about relationships and provides solid, biblical alternatives to society's norm.
Tired of the game? Kiss dating goodbye.
Going out? Been dumped? Waiting for a call that doesn't come? Have you tasted pain in dating, drifted through one romance or, possibly, several of them?
Ever wondered, "Isn't there a better way?"
I Kissed Dating Goodbye shows what it means to entrust your love life to God. Joshua Harris shares his story of giving up dating and discovering that God has something even better: a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness.
So inspiring...| Posted May 14, 2010
This book has inspired me in so many ways. I couldn't thank Joshua Harris enough for opening my eyes to the truth he talks about in here. One of the best relationship books I've ever read.
read it| Posted April 05, 2010
this book is great for everyone not saying everyone has to read but this book help me a lot although i still want to have a bf not not as bad a i wanted to before i read this book this book is everything that parents tell their kids when they come to the dating age my parents don't let me date but that is good because i am no the best at how i dress so if i date it would not be the best thing for me and the boy all i am trying to say if you have a hard headed kid when it comes to talking about dating than read this book it is great
So Good!| Posted May 24, 2009
This is such a good book! It really makes you think about how you are treating members of the opposite gender and how you should. I recommend it to everyone no matter where you are relationally.
Really made me think| Posted May 16, 2009
It's a fresh perspective in this world of hookups and breakups; don't rush into going out with someone just as you wouldn't rush into a marriage. Don't date just for an escort or an excuse to wear nice clothes. Joshua Harris's personal choice makes a lot of sense in this crazy mixed-up world.
I have to say that as a person who's never dated, not once, it's made me feel better about it. I never conciously chose not to, I just never really got asked. Now I'm wondering if maybe that wasn't Providence rather than being undesirable.
He talks about all the heartbreak that can come from flippantly "going out" with somebody and shares stories of people he's known that made right and wrong choices. It's really inspiring. At one point or another, everybody in my family picked the book up (I think it may have been the title that caught their eyes)
Everybody should read this book, and whether or not they agree with every/anything in it, they'll be forced to take a good hard look at their relationships.
(Another neat thing; if you take romance out of the equation, a lot of the things he says about relationships and listening applies to friendships too.)